Living Inquiry
Inquiry as practice — where questions lead to extraordinary everyday realities.
What are the hidden gifts embedded in the silence of our inherited trauma? The generations of women who were repressed — in my ancestral legacy, infanticide, misogyny — offered a gift of inner strength: the capacity to carry the enormous weight of unspoken losses, the dreams and hopes of generations of women who could not speak the words that survival demanded as its cost. living voice to those who could not. Underneath, the body knows what the mind cannot.
Meeting of Strangers: What Emerges from Silence
Forthcoming — a fragmented memoir about the moment before you know what you know. The body’s intelligence, the inheritance of silence, the invisible legacy that moves through generations before anyone names it. Every piece lives in that threshold: in marriage — you knew before you knew. In ancestry — you understood their limitation before you could articulate it. In dreams — the unconscious was screaming what the waking mind wouldn’t hold.
Undeceived
An essay on the Latin root decipere — to ensnare — and the recognition that the mind’s fragmentation constructs its own prison. To be undeceived is not comfort. It is a kind of violence — the violence of looking clearly. The essay explores how genuine seeing undoes the architecture of the defended self, and why most of us prefer the beautiful prison to the undecorated real. Developed through rich conversations with David Whyte.
Mother of Pearl
A lyrical meditation on intergenerational inheritance — the generations of women who closed down like oysters on the seabed, and what was being made inside the armor all along. The nacre of silence. The nacre of compliance. The nacre of a swallowed life. And what it produced: something luminous, of value beyond anything they could have imagined.
Published Works
Author, The Mindfulness Workbook for Depression. Co-founding editor, Women, Intersectionality, and Power in Group Psychotherapy Leadership — now required at Harvard, Smith, and psychotherapy training institutes. Essays and blog at mindfulnyc.org. Simone Weil wrote that grace fills the void — but only where the void has been allowed to remain void. Not filled. Not explained. Not solved. In the space between two sides of a story, there is usually a third — what really happened. What is still happening.
Know the light. Hold the dark.
The wisdom is embedded in the interior world
that is invisible to the seeing eye.
—Yoon Im Kane